Kids under the age of six may worry about being left behind
or being separated from their parents. If you go on an
orientation or house-hunting trip beforehand without the
children, it’s very important to reassure kids this age that
you will be back; bring something unique about the new area
back to them. It’s very important for them to express their
feelings and fears about the move. Give them a job to do.
Have them be responsible for boxing up their favorite toys,
and “labeling” their boxes with crayons and stickers.
If they take karate, or play soccer, even if their favorite
thing to do is go to the park or the pizza parlor, find
these places in your news neighborhood and get photos,
brochures, or videos. These kids are most concerned with
fitting in. They may react angrily to the move, even insist
they are not going. This is usually due to the total lack of
control they have over everything important in their lives,
friends, school and jobs, being disrupted.
These children can be very worried about making new friends
and what will be different in the new school. They are
curious about the clothing, hair- styles, bicycles, cars,
etc., that kids in the new city will have. Photos of these
things are very helpful, and including them on an
orientation trip is nice, but if not, do visit the school
and take detailed photos/videos for them. Perhaps the
principal could arrange a pen pal with someone who might
match up well.
Give young children an entertaining
travel kit for the move.
Give older children a diary for
recording the trip and move.
Arrange a going away and remembering
you party for your older children and their friends,
with pre-addressed envelopes for your children to give
out, and invitations for their friends to visit.
Give children of all agents a special
address book and stationery set for keeping up with
Take videos of the new home, if the
kids won’t get to see it before the move. Arrive well
before the movers so kids can explore and become
acquainted with the home before the movers take all your
Give each child a responsibility during
the mover’s delivery, working on their room, supervising
younger siblings, painting or arranging furniture,
preparing meals and/or doing some kitchen organization,
taking care of the dog and/or cat in the back yard in or
out of his/her travel cage.
Take time with the family as soon as
possible to explore the museums, sights and recreation
in your new city.
Plan time with your children
immediately after their first day at school to meet new
needs they have realized.
Arrange a visit to new schools and a
meeting with the teacher before the actual first day of
Encourage the children to bring new friends
home. Perhaps a welcome party instead of birthday, where all
the children would get little presents, In a swap kind of